The following is the second of two email exchanges between myself and believer author Dick Gist. Once again, if I am not appropriately representing your position/s as freethinkers, or even if I am, please feel free to comment on the blog article by clicking on "comments" at the end of this article on my blog, or via this link Thanks!
I'm a little at a loss as to your experience with "inadequate gods" and how atheists might relate to it vis-a-vis understanding which god one is rejecting. It may be owing to the possibility that you are too invested in the "Everyone must have 'something' to believe in!" mindset that most theists seem to have, and seem to be unable to get beyond. But here's my best attempt at answering your question:
As an atheist the very concept of a god has as much meaning to me as the concept of gnomes has to you. You reject gnomes at face as not real, a non-existent creature, a creation of man's mind. You do not need to substitute your rejection of gnomes with some other mythical creature; nor do you have to analyze what gnome qualities you reject. I'd bet dollars to donuts it's not even a consideration.
Similarly, atheists' view God/gods of any flavor; with any attributes or temperament; from any culture, time period, or civilization; as just one more "gnome". We don't need to find some replacement.
In lieu of dependence on / belief in supernatural beings, most atheists tend to invest their lives in scientific reality, reason; in family and friends; in education, civility, fairness, and justice; in empathy for those less fortunate and the ethic of reciprocity; trying to make the here and now in the only world we will ever know as good as it can be. No boogieman, or man-god, or four armed elephant god need apply.
This is often difficult for the religiously indoctrinated to wrap their arms around, an alien concept, their having known nothing else but supernaturalism.
Alas, while belief in gnomes is harmless, belief in supreme beings and the expectations and requirements they are perceived to demand from their followers and practitioners is often quite malevolent and destructive. That is what makes me an anti-theist as well as an atheist.
Anyway... I'll work this aspect of our exchange into a second blog, and invite my readers to add their own perspectives. We have no doctrine or dogma, so I'm speaking for myself and from info gleaned from my association with many non-believers over the years.
Yours in reason,